Becoming a parent is one of the most gratifying experiences a person could have. It can also be one of the most challenging. Adopting a baby adds to that challenge as adopted children (yes even newborns) come with their own inherent pain. Pain you will never understand.
This isn’t a bad thing, unless you go into it unprepared and misinformed.
The process of adopting can be a roller-coaster ride of emotions and knowing how to manage those emotions is the first step in creating a strong foundation for you and your child.
The second and equally important step is managing the baggage from your own past. We parent the way we’ve been parented, which may not be the best example. You and I both know, everyone has things, people and situations that trigger us from our past. These triggers are stored emotions formed from negative events in childhood.
If your greatest desire is to adopt and raise happy, well adjusted kids, while feeling balanced, in control (of yourself), confident and self assured, while fully trusting your abilities, then one critical thing you need to do for yourself and your beautiful child to ensure that happens, is to clear up those triggers and erase old patterns.
You can be the parent you wish to be only when you are no longer being influenced by your past. The moment you decide to make the necessary changes because your child [and you] deserve better, is the same moment you recognize and demand more from yourself and life. When this happens, you are unstoppable!
When you parent from a place of present moment awareness, not from the reactionary place of your wounded self, regurgitating your own upbringing, this allows for your child to acquire his/her individual sense of identity vs. being moulded to please his/her parents.